Why Being Uncomfortable Means You’re on the Right Path

Discomfort is often confused with unhappiness.

Unhappiness is terrifying.

So, we cope with unhappiness by filling our lives with busy-ness, with things, or even flat out ignoring its existence. Sometimes we even do all three — for years!

But discomfort does not equal unhappiness. Rather, it is a vital signal that your soul is ready for growth…

As humans, we long for comfort, safety, and consistency. We assume they indicate we are on the right path.

But discomfort is actually a catalyst for new insight. It’s the activator for healing and personal development — and we struggle to find relief until it’s addressed.

Last weekend, I attended a workshop designed to guide people through dealing with life transitions… It was emotional yet, powerful and timely. My life has been changing for exactly two years straight. At times it has felt overwhelming and unrelenting.

Yet, my intuitive wisdom reminds me that I asked for this. I asked for my heart to awaken when my spirit yearned for more, and my life began unfolding in accordance with my deepest desires.

So, while you may feel you are struggling at times — and that may certainly feel uncomfortable — here are 10 Signs That You’re on the Right Path:

  1. A life-changing event has occurred or is about to occur.

Life changes are always opportunities. No matter how difficult, they are open doors that invite you to create something new.

  1. You feel “lost” or directionless.

When you release a long-held narrative that no longer serves you, you will be living with more awareness for the present moment, giving you greater clarity on the immediate steps to take toward your dreams.


  1. You’re experiencing “brain fog.”

Feeling less organized, struggling to focus, and experiencing irritating memory issues can indicate you’re awakening to a more creative and intuitive space where you can deal with emotions more clearly and easily. Be gentle with yourself as you work through this phase.

  1. You’re feeling brutalized by your own thoughts.

You’re becoming aware of just how instrumental your own thought patterns have been in your happiness (or lack thereof). You are no longer OK with a destructive inner monologue that keeps you stuck. You’re ready to heal and develop a new “script” that aligns with your values for life, health, and healing.

  1. You have a stronger desire to speak up for yourself.

The desire to respect yourself and “have your own back” begins with your thoughts, but eventually extends to your external relationships. This is a critical step in your journey and helps you clarify your boundaries, which creates the comfort, safety, and consistency you seek.

  1. You’re experiencing “random” bursts of heavy emotions, such as sorrow or anger.

Erupting emotions are signals to pay attention, get curious, and stay present with what is arising. Rather than resisting them, stuffing them, or feeling controlled by them, view them as opportunities to become fully conscious of your experience in order to move through tough times swiftly.

  1. You have an intense need to be alone.

Solitude provides space for reflection and recalibration. Take time to respect this desire, give it the attention it deserves. Journal what you discover and you will be rewarded with insights and “a-ha moments” that are truly life changing.

  1. You have an intense need to be connected.

Once you respect time alone, you will desire to connect more fully with others who support your journey, who’s values align with your own, and who’s very presence edifies your soul. Community is a gift, a deep well from which you can gain refreshment, enlightenment, and rejuvenation.

  1. You recognize that you have a long way to go.

Seeing life and happiness as a journey, rather than a destination frees you from the disappointment of the truth that “this too shall pass.” No matter what the circumstances, you will have the mindset to walk the path of life with grace and wonderment for what is and what will be.


  1. You realize you’re the only one responsible for your health and happiness.

This awareness brought me the gift of not only knowing but also trusting that challenges provide the opportunity to develop new insight, to deepen my understanding, to release a limiting belief, and to shed away “old scripts.”

Discomfort is truly a signal that you’re ready for something deeper, that you’re no longer OK with the status quo.

Your personal growth nourishes your soul and allows it to flourish so that your unique gifts can be fully expressed as your journey through life unfolds.

When I’m tempted to wonder “why me, why now, why this?” I gently remind myself:

I am exactly where I am supposed to be, here and now, experiencing exactly what I am meant to be facing. I wonder what will develop because of this exact moment. ”