Dealing with Criticism like Oprah and Tebow

On Monday morning, as I finished my breakfast, I overheard an interesting conversation on the radio between the co-hosts…

Female Co-Host: Oprah’s in Toronto this week filming her show, but I guess you’re not a big fan?

Male Co-Host: Ugh, Oprah. Can’t stand her. Actually, I guess she’s not so bad now.

Female: Why don’t you mind her now?

Male: Well, I heard she’s struggling…


And that’s the kind of BS that we have to deal with everyday.

THAT is the guy’s reason for not hating her anymore…because she is STRUGGLING.

Everyone’s a hater.

This hate-itude that is so popular these days is incredible.

Take for example the crowd at the Yankees game booing Tim Tebow. He’s only a nice, upstanding young gentleman, who if you had to pick a guy to date your daughter, you’d choose him, but what’s he get?


So if Oprah and Tebow get their share of hate, you will too.

“You can’t be great without the hate.” – Craig “Jackie Chiles” Ballantyne

In fact, the greater you are, the more haterade that shall be poured upon you.

But you can’t let it affect you.

After Monday’s email about ignoring the critics, I found this post on the blog:

“Great article Craig. I’m going through a bit of a tough day today – dealing with a sudden dump of criticism and hard feedback. You have no idea how much this helped.”

Hey, no problem.

Your comment reminded me of an email I sent last year, one worthy of resending just to show you an example of the hate I get…I’m sure many readers have some dooozies of their own…just remember, it’s NOT real.

Remember that male radio co-host who hates Oprah?

Put him in a room with Oprah and what would he do?

He’d kiss her ass, that’s what.

And that’s what your haters would do too…or at the very least, they’d act hypocritical and certainly wouldn’t have the guts to call you names in person.

They are only willing to do that in the fantasy land of the Internet. In the real world, they’d like you like anyone else.

Never forget that.

Alright, so here are the insults I’ve received…you should also get a laugh from this…

Read the “Three Insults” post here:

And discover how to deal with criticism…while enjoying a laugh at the people who hate me.

Keep pushing on,

Craig “SBR” Ballantyne

“Your reputation is harmed the most by what you say to defend it.”- Nassim Nicholas Taleb

  • You always say the right things…BUT…the real beauty is how they always come out at the right times. Keep doing what you do Craig. Extremely grateful!

  • Craig,

    Great message today as always! I needed to hear this, as I get criticized all the time, by people who are just stuck in their own stories. They have no idea how vested they are in the status quo, and they dump their shit on me. Lately, it’s because they are facing how healthy they really are eating, and it’s a reality check that stokes the haterade. Your good timing on this was as good the bad timing of the haters. Like Brad said above. Just in time for me to grow.


  • Great article Craig. I’ve had my fair share of criticism myself and I used to get all offended and then I’d replay it over and over again in my mind. Thankfully, I don’t do that anymore. Now it’s like water off a ducks back. Seriously, I’ve found a deep love for myself that no amount of criticism could ever touch. We all have to learn how to do that if we want to be hugely successful. (Which I do:) For me, that’s the price I’m willing to pay for success.

  • John Doe


    Can you recommend any resources for maintaining anonymity online? Obviously planting multiple electronic flags is an important first step as outlined in a free report from Simon Black.

    What I am interested in is how one can set the up a blog (that will eventually be monetized – participate in affiliate campaigns, etc) and not have anyone discover the true identity of the site owner/administrator.

    Obviously there are hosting, registration, email, etc. accounts that need to be registered to an entity and funded by credit card, PayPal, etc. so there are sizable electronic tracks to be covered here.

    How realistic is it to create this identity masking infrastructure without spending many hundreds or thousands of dollars over and above the cost of starting and maintaining more conventional infrastructure?

    Again, any reference materials you can recommend would be greatly appreciated.

  • Craig, can you beat this one:
    “Julian Angel is so buried up his own arse so the diamonds on his bandana formed by themselves”?
    You can’t please those music critics either. But guess what: Next time I will send this guy a promo kit with yet more self-aggrandizing materials to get a quote that’s yet worse…

    Thanks for sharing your experiences which bring encouragement with them…