“I’m always relieved when someone is delivering a eulogy and
I realize I’m listening to it.”
– George Carlin

Writers

and speakers know that you only have a few seconds to get the reader’s or listener’s attention. If your opening fails to grab him, he’ll quickly stop reading or listening.

One of the most attention-grabbing openings I ever heard was, sadly, that of the eulogy for my father, given at his funeral some 10 years ago. “Everybody wants to be happy,” the speaker began. “Dave Bly knew the secret of happiness, and in a few minutes I’m going to tell you what it is.”

Why was this lead so powerful? Three reasons …

First, it told the listener something he believed to be true: “Everybody wants to be happy.” And because it was the truth, it resonated.

Second, it promised a benefit: If you listened, the secret of happiness would be revealed to you within a few minutes.

And third, it was unexpected – not the beginning of your typical, dull eulogy.

So why am I telling you this?

Because the secret revealed that day was not only the secret to happiness… but, I realized, it was also the secret to creating winning marketing campaigns. The eulogist didn’t reveal the secret right up front, directly. He got to it through stories.

I will do the same here, because it will make the secret clearer and teach it better.

The first story the speaker told was about a day when he and his wife, along with my father and my mother, went to a lake to enjoy the outdoors. Three of them wanted to have brunch at a nice lakeside restaurant. But when they turned around to get Dad’s vote, they found that he had meandered off. There he was out on the dock. He was talking to a couple of young boys who were fishing, but without much luck.

Dad loved to fish, and he loved kids. Within a few minutes, he showed them his tricks for adjusting the bob, baiting the hook, and casting out … and they began catching one fish after another, at a rapid rate. The kids were delighted, smiling and laughing, thanking Dad for making their day. And he was smiling too.

The second story was about a little magic trick Dad would do to entertain when he went out to dinner with a group of people. When the wine was finished, he would ask one of the dinner guests to push the cork down into the wine bottle. Then he would challenge that person to remove the cork – without breaking the bottle. Of course, they couldn’t do it. But Dad could – and did – to the entertainment and delight of the other diners. (It’s a trick that would take too much space to describe here. You do it with a linen napkin or handkerchief.)

“The secret of happiness that Dave Bly knew,” the eulogist concluded, “is to put other people first. Make them happy, and you will be happy.”

The same principle works in marketing and sales: Make the customer successful … and help him achieve his goals … and you will be successful too. Because the customer will buy what you are selling, making you richer in the process.

So that’s the simple secret of happiness … of marketing … of sales … and of success in virtually any aspect of life: Put others first, and you will reap the rewards.

And that’s the secret I shared with over a hundred mourners at my father’s funeral, when I gave his eulogy so many years ago.

[Ed. Note: Bob Bly is the editor of ETR’s Direct Marketing Masters Edition, a program to help you start your own successful direct-mail business. Sign up for Bob’s e-zine, The Direct Response Letter.]

Bob Bly

Bob Bly is an independent copywriter and consultant specializing in business-to-business and direct marketing. He has been hired as a consultant by such companies as Sony, Chemical Bank, J. Walter Thompson, Westinghouse, and Prentice-Hall. Bob is also the author of more than 50 books including The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Direct Marketing (Alpha Books), Targeted Public Relations, Selling Your Services, How to Promote Your Own Business, and Keeping Clients Satisfied. A phenomenal public speaker, Bob will share with you how easy it is to start your own business. Whether you’re ready to quit your job or are just looking to make a little money on the side, you’ll want to hear Bob’s advice.