How to Negotiate Like a Billionaire

Today I’d like to talk to you about the most important skill you can use to live a richer life.

Most people think they’re good at this skill, but in reality they make one simple mistake that ruins them.

What skill am I talking about?


Most people botch major negotiations for one major reason.

John D. Rockefeller had a difficult childhood.  His family bounced between poverty and comfort because his father was a con-artist. The elder Rockefeller traveled the countryside of upstate New York selling patent medicine which was often simply “snake-oil.”  The Rockefellers didn’t exactly fit in where they lived in the small New York village.

Just like most small towns, everybody knew each other.  Gossip and rumor spread like wildfire. And the village scorned Rockefeller’s father who they correctly thought was a snake-oil salesman.  Whispers followed the family, they were excluded from social life and young John could not help but hear the vicious things the villagers said about his family.

Because they were ostracized, Rockefeller quickly developed a thick skin and a calm demeanor that helped him ignore the verbal barbs from the villagers who thought the sins of the father should blemish his son.
People commented on the boy’s almost Buddhist detachment from events that kept him from getting angry or flustered, even when his father committed the ultimate sin and abandoned their family.

Throughout his childhood, Rockefeller built a fortress of calm.

And this fortress served him on his journey to remarkable success.  You see, when Rockefeller sat down to negotiate, it was impossible for people to emotionally manipulate him. Even when he sat in front of a hostile Congress who wanted to destroy the company he built, Rockefeller remained calm and composed during the crisis.
Nothing could faze him.

Now I’m going to show you how you can get calm like Rockefeller before you enter into any negotiation during your life.  This could be buying a new car, trying to close on a house, or simply convincing your spouse to do something for you.

Most people, when faced with any negotiation, let their emotions rule.  That’s the major mistake. If you let your emotions reign during a negotiation, I promise you will be crushed.

But it’s hard to remain calm especially when you’re trying to get something that you really want.

Think back to the last time you had a major negotiation.  You probably felt nervous and anxious. You may have struggled to say the right thing without stammering. You may have felt clammy or even a little nauseous.

That’s okay. It’s normal to feel like that when the stakes are high. But you can work around those feelings using this simple Rockefeller trick.
When you enter a negotiation of any kind, before you start talking, take a moment of quiet to compose yourself.  Be silent for a second.  Don’t rush into things or tip your hand.  Take a deep breath and enjoy the silence for a moment.

Rockefeller would enter a negotiation softly.  He waited a moment before he said anything. If you follow his example, you will immediately feel calmer.

The worst thing you can do when negotiating is try to rush things.
Don’t forget that during your brief silence, the other person will feel just as uncomfortable as you.

After you collect your thoughts, compose your first sentence and speak it calmly and confidently.  Don’t worry about moving fast.  If you do rush, it immediately sends the signal that you’re nervous, scared and overwhelmed.  That’s not the impression you want to make.

A calm tone and a slow pace is your friend here.

Later in his career, Rockefeller surprised people he met because he was so calm and genial, even during hostile negotiations. They expected that the king of the Robber Barons would bluster and rage.  But he didn’t.

He simply stayed still.

And he spoke calmly, quietly and never rushed.

It’s a rule in negotiations that if you lose your cool then you won’t get the deal you want.

Stay calm and you’ll be just fine.

Beyond learning to stay calm, Rockefeller learned another valuable lesson early in his career: threats don’t work. Businessman lost their cool during a negotiation and made threats when things weren’t working in their favor. This destructive behavior almost always damaged the budding relationship and cost the bully dearly.

Threats ruin relationships. And a rich life and career is built on great relationships.

Machiavelli got it wrong when he said, “It’s better to be feared than loved.”

Rockefeller never made threats, even when he was the richest and most powerful business owner in the world. In fact, Rockefeller was happy to slightly overpay for things in order to maintain and build relationships.

Take these two valuable lessons from Rockefeller:

  1. Take a moment before you start any negotiation to clear your mind and remain calm.
  2. Don’t ever make threats.  They don’t work long-term.

If you work on remaining calm during the negotiation, you’ll notice that you become more persuasive, more rational and more likely to get what you want.  It’s one of the most valuable skills for living a rich life.

So keep calm and negotiate it.

Start today.

[Ed. Note: Richard Saunders is the editor of ETR’s newest publication: Ben Franklin’s Wealth and Power Insider. In each issue, he shares a valuable lesson from the past that you can apply today to live a richer life. In the latest issue he shows you Rockefeller’s in-depth negotiation strategy that you can use to get what you want. You’ll learn how Rockefeller prepared for major negotiations and how you can use his simple strategy to save money when you buy a car, get a better deal on a house and become more persuasive almost overnight. Click here to get immediate access to the latest issue called How to Negotiation Like a Robber Baron.]