Avoiding the Dark Side of Your Mind
Last week, I found myself at a swanky nightclub in New York City (don’t’ worry, I was home by 11pm!). I also found myself surrounded by prosperity. There were over 400 people on hand, including celebrity authors (like Tim Ferriss), some of the world’s top fitness experts, and dear friends on hand to celebrate the book launch of my sometimes business partners, John Romaniello and Adam Bornstein.
Life is good.
Earlier in the week I was in Denver visiting the Early To Rise Headquarters. Our team worked together to film our first-ever LiveCast, and we shared several success stories from our Virtual Mastermind program. By week’s end we had over 35 new members join this fantastic online coaching group. I truly believe the Virtual Mastermind to be the best product I have ever created. That claim extends to all of my fitness products and videos, even the new Home Workout Revolution System.
Life is good.
Life is good when you add value to the world and earn your prosperity.
And yet, you must have the right mindset in place to attract prosperity into your life, because if you lack confidence in your ability, you can actually repel money and opportunity.
One of my fitness Publishing Partners is at risk of letting this happen to her right now as she prepares for a big product launch in.
This will require a huge mental growth phase for this partner. In the past, this person, we’ll call them “Ashley,” has had a lot confidence issues. Ashley doesn’t think she is good enough, or she doesn’t know enough, and so she was often tempted to do the work out of a fear of failure and rejection. She hesitated to contact potential Joint Venture partners because she felt like they wouldn’t even return her emails. But that, as old Zig Ziglar would have said, “Is stinkin’ thinking”. It’s of no value to her. No use. It does not serve her.
Are you making the same mistakes in your mind? Are you letting your little limitations hold back your big self? Are you setting up similar imaginary walls in the way of your progress?
If so, it’s time to break them down with Prosperity Thinking.
Hopefully our Publishing Partner Ashley is over this. Bedros Keuilian and I have worked long and had to build her confidence, and to show her that she’s good enough, she’s smart enough, and yes, people really like her! Each time we convinced her to take action, she experienced positive results, or at least framed the results as a lesson that would improve her results in the future.
Recently however, her weekly email progress updates have me a little concerned. As her big product launch gets closer, I’ve sensed the “Dark Side” is coming on strong. Her scarcity mindset is returning and overpowering her Prosperity Thinking. It must be resisted, not only by her, but by you, too.
The Dark Side of the Scarcity Mindset leads to low confidence, whining, begging, and being needy. And all of these things simply repel wealth. You will not make money, get Joint Venture partners interested in helping, attract traffic, or build a real business if you exhibit those traits.
Yes, you must be prepared. You must be an expert in your field. You must have a great product. But you can have all of those and still repel wealth if you maintain an inferior mental state.
You must have confidence.
You must be powerful.
You must feel MORE than worthy.
In fact, you must feel DESERVING.
As Dan Kennedy said at his bonus Wealth Creation Day I attended in the fittingly named city of Independence, Ohio, “Money is attracted to the individual operating free of guilt or shame. People with inferiority feelings about their information, expertise, or business activities are at a profound disadvantage. They subliminally communicate their guilt to others and unconsciously sabotage themselves.”
“It’s time for a check-up from the neck-up”, as old Zig would also say.
Today, your 10-minute mental task is to work on your money mindset.
Give yourself a reality check. Sit in a quiet place, take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the center to give yourself two columns to write in.
In the first column, answer these questions:
Are you repelling wealth with an inferiority complex?
Do you act like the proverbial “Eeyore the Donkey” from Winnie the Pooh?
Do you attribute all your success to random luck?
Do you believe that you are resigned to struggle for the rest of your life?
Do you let these struggles inhibit your action?
Do you always break your momentum by attracting trouble into your world just when things are going well?
All of these are hallmarks of the scarcity mindset.
It’s not your fault, in most cases. Perhaps you were raised in a community your parents or teachers told you that getting rich was bad, and that only evil people are able to accumulate wealth. I know that my money mindset was significantly handicapped by my mother’s attitude toward money. It’s something that I’ve worked for years to overcome.
Identify what brings you down. Once you do, you’ll be able to overcome these success-killing mental habits.
List all of the things that get you into the Scarcity Mindset.
What leads you to the Dark Side?
That’s the list of environments, people, activities, and “stinkin’ thinking” you must commit to avoiding.
In the second column, list all of the things that are working for you.
What’s going right? Where are all the great opportunities in your life? Who brings out the best in you? What books or websites or videos get you in a state of mind where you see great potential and unlimited upside?
These are the people, places, and things you must immerse yourself in and spend more time with.
Compare and contrast the two lists. They hold valuable insights into how you should be living your life.
No matter how much you feel like you are struggling right now, there must be some sources of prosperity in your life. And I’m not just referring to money. Look at other areas of your life. Do you have an abundance of close family relationships? What are you doing right in that area of your life that you can transfer into your business building? Is it because you are making time and effort to keep those family relationships going? While on the other hand you fear business contacts, and so you ignore them instead of picking up the phone?
What is it that holds you back in one area of life?
And more important, what is it that allows you to have prosperity in other areas of your life?
Go through this prosperity introspection. Create a prosperity checklist for yourself. This checklist allows you to attract the positive thoughts from the second column into your life while repelling the negative thoughts from the first column. It will serve as your roadmap to success.
Don’t let your inner demons, your little limitations, your negative (and false) self-beliefs stop you from achieving what you desire and deserve.
Once you have your checklist, move on to creating a vision for how your life will look when you start instituting those action steps and achieving real success.
Build the checklist. Create the vision. And let wealth flow into your life.
You’ve earned it.
Please tell me how this has helped you and share your success stories here.
[Ed. Note. Craig Ballantyne is the editor of Early to Rise and author of Financial Independence Monthly and Turbulence Training. He is also the co-creator of the Early to Rise $100,000 Transformation Contest. Though this round of the Transformation Contest has closed it’s not too late to get access to all the helpful tools and advice that has helped many people make a positive change in their lives. Get started on your major life transformations today.]