Do you want to completely sabotage your life, destroy your potential, and ultimately look back on a life of wasted years with intense regret? Of course you don’t. No one WANTS that. But for many people, their actions — and more importantly their attitude — are leading them down a road of ruin that will ultimately lead them to that precise, final destination.
That road’s name is “I Can’t Boulevard” and it’s full of millions upon millions of unsuccessful, complacent, and mediocrity-filled men and women.
Yes, many of these people are also good hearted and well meaning, but unfortunately they’re stuck in a big fat rut with their health, body, income, marriage, career, or relationships. And they are stuck because of their attitude, because of the phrase, “I can’t”.
I can’t achieve a body like that. I don’t have the genetics.
I can’t make a six figure salary. What skills do I have?
I can’t fix my marriage. It’s too far gone.
I can’t be an entrepreneur. That’s too risky.
I can’t. I can’t. I can’t. Enough!
This negative “can’t do” mentality is holding them back.
As employees, when a problem arises, they’d rather tell you about every potential solution that WON’T work instead of spending their time focusing on finding the one solution that will.
Fact is, when it all boils down, how you handle the problems and obstacles that arise in your life will determine whether you excel and soar like an eagle, or if you remain grounded in a chicken coop full of other self-limiting thinkers.
You see, problems and obstacles are OPPORTUNITIES for leaders. Are you a leader? You can be, if you learn to RESPOND like a leader.
Leaders fix problems. Leaders learn from problems. Leaders grow from problems. Leaders become BETTER LEADERS because of problems.
Other folks, however, let problems and obstacles consume them, control them, and serve as the fuel for rationalizing their many excuses.
“I can’t eat healthy while traveling. It’s too hard.”
Yes you can. FIGURE. IT. OUT. Thousands of people do it (while hundreds of thousands don’t). What separates the few from the many? Simple. You can’t just “wing it” and hope it all goes well. Of course, if you do that, you’re going to fail. You have to have a plan for success and you need to map it out in advance. Know where you’ll be and when you’ll be there and create options for success, even if that means bringing them with you. Creating a plan is creating a blueprint to solve your problems.
“My spouse and I can’t get along. My marriage is going down the tubes.”
Start with yourself and change the things about YOU that cause your spouse to react negatively to you. By catering to the needs of your spouse, you will automatically have a much happier relationship and in turn you’ll find that conflict becomes less frequent. But, that’ll never happen as long as you’re pointing fingers in any direction other than back at yourself. Before long, once they see your changes, your spouse will also want to change to please you. Why? Because the relationship now becomes one of meeting each other’s needs again (like it once was, as all relationships begin in a place of mutual admiration), instead of one of continual conflict. The first step begins with you; your spouse will follow.
“I can’t have a successful business. I wouldn’t even know where to start.”
FIND OUT WHERE TO START. What the heck does that even mean? Do you think anyone who has a successful business magically knew where to start? No, they didn’t. Talk to people who have done what you want to do. Hire a coach. Get the support you need to succeed. OR, just stop being negative long enough to do a little research on your own. That’s where you start.
“I can’t get a big affiliate to promote my offer. They’re out of my league.”
GET IN THEIR LEAGUE by changing your mindset. If you can’t see yourself as a big dog, you’ll never be one. NO ONE is out of your league. Everyone, at one point in time, started from where you are starting from. If you want to excel and move into a place of success, you have to see yourself there and ACT, TALK, and WALK like you belong in that league.
Bottom line, leaders accelerate and excel while others remain stagnant. Do you want to be a leader? The #1 quality of a leader is having a positive, problem-solving, “can do” attitude. Leaders find solutions because they relentlessly LOOK for solutions instead of focusing on the problem. They breed positivity and suffocate negative thinking. Leaders CHOOSE to view problems as opportunities. Leaders are refined and fine-tuned by the continual problem-solving process.
Leader’s don’t say “I Can’t”. Instead, they just move toward making what they want to happen, happen.
Do you want to be successful? Eliminate all the excuses and self-limiting beliefs that are keeping you from living the life you want to live. Get rid of all the negative thinking surrounding your career, your relationships, and your health. Abandon all the reasons you “can’t” and find the solutions that will allow you to make your wants a reality.
You MUST adopt a leader’s mindset.
LEAD your career. LEAD your home. LEAD your health.
How do you do that? You do that by taking charge of your life and by finding solutions to the obstacles that stand in the way of where you are now, and what you want to achieve.
If you’re not living the life you want to live, you can change that, starting now.
STOP focusing on all the reasons you “can’t” and start taking steps toward the solution. Lead the way with a positive, problem-solving, “can do” attitude.
Can you do that?
I’ll let you answer that one.coaching from Craig, relentlessly studying what works, and working harder than almost anyone else that Craig knows, he became a multi-millionaire by delivering solutions to people’s problems. He’s one of the top Direct Response marketers in the world today. And most of the time he’s incredibly happy, except when he sees people wasting their lives.]