There is No Virtue in Hiding

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For two years I sat in the back of the class listening, taking notes, but never engaging.

I regret those two years.

It wasn’t until my third year in University, when I shed this attitude and started sitting at the front of my lectures, raising my hand, engaging my profs and classmates in discussions, and actively participating in my education that my life started to change.

Those last two years of school were my best in terms of grades, friendships forged, and relationships built with profs. My only regret was I hadn’t come out of hiding sooner.

I read something today that reminded me of this time in my life. Even if you’re not in school — maybe you’re working at your first real job — this advice should help untangle some things.

Early to Rise founder Mark Ford wrote in The Palm Beach Letter Daily about the day he made “getting rich” his No. 1 goal. Mark says this decision changed everything, “I now viewed every decision through a new lens, constantly asking the question ‘Will doing — or not doing — this make me richer?’”

Mark elaborates in his article on five areas in his life where this one decision made the biggest impact. He says:

4. It changed the way I viewed my working relationships.

I stopped having lunch with our vice president of operations. He was a very intelligent guy, and I had previously found him engaging and amusing. But his clever comments, I now realized, issued from an emotional quagmire of negative feelings toward the business and its owner.

Talented employees who did ordinary work began to irritate me. (Why couldn’t they work harder and be more useful to the business?) And my feelings toward the company’s owner morphed from repressed resentment (as a working-class kid, I disliked and distrusted all “rich” people) to cautious admiration (he had, after all, accomplished that which was now my life’s goal).

That second-to-last point is what I want you to focus on today, “Talented employees who did ordinary work began to irritate me. (Why couldn’t they work harder and be more useful to the business?)”

There’s a lot of wisdom we can extract from this one statement.

First, this was probably the first time Mark was actually thinking like a millionaire. Mark wasn’t his own boss; he was working for someone else. But, he was thinking like he was the owner.

Carlos Porterrero from Wisebread.com explains why thinking like you own the placeis a good thing:

Think about what the owner has to think about:

  • Every single employee
  • The future of the company
  • The revenue
  • The competitors
  • How to lower costs
  • How to increase profits
  • The list could go on and on.

My point is this: you don’t have to worry about these things because you’re not the owner, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t.

Start thinking like the owner and you’ll see how quickly your perspective changes.

Owners don’t check out at 5 o’clock because “the day is over.”
Owners don’t take a day off because they want to go to the beach.
Owners don’t get caught up in the minutiae of everyday office politics.
Is it because they’re better than the rank and file? Nope.

They just have bigger fish to fry.

When you’re trying to accomplish anything big in life (like getting rich), I believe this narrative comes up a lot. There will always be people around you who are caught up in the trivial, who will try and drag you down to their level if you let them. You must resist their pressure and focus on your number one objective, because you have bigger fish to fry.

Like Porterro said, this starts by changing your perspective. You need to transform your perspective from someone who is a victim to someone who is at affect in the world.

When Mark says he felt irritated seeing talented employees doing ordinary work, I thought about myself in University.

Hiding in the back of the class, not asking questions because I either knew the answers or felt like I was above the discussion, was the wrong attitude to take. It was the equivalent of doing ordinary work.

If you’re an educated millennial, a lot of people will tell you you’re going to have to take jobs where you’re overqualified. Or worse, you won’t get jobs because you’re overqualified. Don’t believe this.

As soon as you start believing you’re smarter than your current position, that you’re above the work that you do, you’ll stop growing.

How will you know when your skill level eclipses your current position?

You won’t because your position should grow accordingly.

A lot of you may argue this point and ask, “What about glass ceilings, and office politics preventing me from moving up?”

Most of what’s really holding you back and preventing you from moving up is fabricated in your mind.

It’s convenient to blame your boss or co-workers for your current level of success; it’s hard to blame yourself.

It’s uncomfortable moving from sitting in the back of the class to the front.

Derek Sivers says the number one way you can be of service to others (friends, family, customers, your boss, etc.) is by Getting Famous.

“Do everything in public and for the public. The more people you reach, the more useful you are. The opposite is hiding, which is of no use to anyone.” — Derek Sivers

A lot of people revere the behind-the-curtain guy. Fame is no longer politically correct. If you seek fame, you’re vain and selfish.

I think this is the wrong way to approach your career. If you’re a young person, believe that you should seek fame — and fortune will follow. Fame means you’re not hiding, it means you’re putting yourself out there for people to see.

The day you start thinking like you’re the boss, is the day you start “getting rich.” Make that day today.

Nick Papple
Managing Editor
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  • Dapo Ski

    But Nick, I REALLY do not want to be famous. I think it is unnecessary.

    Especially when there are several successful people who have made their brands famous instead of their face.

    Almost want to say I despise fame especially in this day and age. Shudders.

    What is a person like me to do? Maybe just work to be famous within the ‘right’ influential crowds?

    • Nick Papple

      Dapo, you’re totally right. There are several famous brands that are faceless. Also, consider how much effort it probably takes to remain faceless once you have a successful brand? I imagine, a lot. I’d write down a list of the reasons for and against fame. Bill Gates is famous and he’s doing a lot of good with his fame.

      Also, being famous in the ‘right’ crowds is important, like you said. If traditional-Hollywood fame makes you shudder, my advice, don’t become an actor. Most crowds that revere Hollywood stars probably have never heard of someone like Leo Babauta or Gary Vaynerchuk. But to everyone who reads Zen Habits or follows Vayner Media, Leo and Gary are considered famous. Context matters. I hope that helps!