I recently started meditating. As you can imagine, particularly if you’ve tried taking up this habit yourself, my first few attempts were painfully difficult. I wanted to quit. And in past attempts, I had.
My first sincere effort at meditation occurred in the spring of 2006. At the time I was struggling with chronic anxiety issues. Every morning I woke up and felt like I was about to have a heart attack. In addition to Qi Gong, yoga, and tai chi, I tried meditation. The first few sessions brought me some limited relief, but despite my desperation I couldn’t manage to stick to the practice.
I tried again in the summer of 2008. After experiencing minor flare-ups with my anxiety, I tried inventing my own form of meditation. It involved lying down on a yoga mat and doing deep breathing exercises.
Shockingly, this approach, when applied at two o’clock in the afternoon not too long after lunch, causes you to fall asleep. Most civilizations refer to this as a siesta, not meditation. Again, I quit.
The years passed. Every few months I’d read about a leader, such as Steve Jobs, or Phil Jackson, using meditation, and I’d consider giving it another shot. But nothing was strong enough to move me to action.
A turning point in my attitude toward meditation came when Matt Smith and I acquired Early To Rise in July, 2011. This led to spending more time with Matt on work trips around the world, from Thailand to Nicaragua, and many days at his home in Denver.
That’s where I learned that meditation is a non-negotiable daily habit for him, like my Daily Document review and early morning writing is for me. On many trips we would agree to meet for breakfast or a morning workout, but neither could commence until after I did my writing and he did his meditation.
Hmmm, I thought, here’s a guy that I respect who is committed to this simple act. What does he know that I don’t?
I was one step closer to trying again.
But still, it was not enough to garner my full commitment.
Finally, the tipping point was reached in late January of this year. While I no longer suffer from near crippling anxiety issues like I did in 2006, I often felt a gnawing discomfort in my chest when hurrying to finish tasks on a busy day. I would catch myself breathing from my upper chest, which only makes things worse.
One day, while working on the ETR editorial calendar, I just happened to choose two essays for Early to Rise that mentioned the power of meditation. Later that afternoon I discovered that even the US Military was teaching meditation to their elite fighting forces.
In addition, I had just given up on my “Wisdom” goal in the ETR Transformation Contest (I’ll explain why I gave up on the original goal in a future essay). That left me needing to make a new “Wise” change in my life, one that really mattered to me.
It was time to get serious about my commitment to meditation and take action, no matter how imperfect.
As General Norman Schwarzkopf taught, “It is easier to correct motion going in the wrong direction than it is to get started.”
That’s the big lesson here.
You begin by committing. Then taking action. In the past, I had missed that first mental step.
I wasted years of potential progress by delaying my commitment. But getting started, committing, and taking action is the first step in getting better at anything. We must stop dabbling, and get serious. That’s how I created a new, positive habit in my life.
My first morning was Monday, January 28th. I sat down on the floor, cross-legged, eyes closed, and forearms resting lightly on my legs.
The first two minutes were miserable.
My mind was racing. I couldn’t focus. My brain would not stop thinking about all the things I had to do or could be doing. And despite all my effort, I still wasn’t breathing properly.
But I persisted. Seven minutes passed, each better than the last. I began to calm down, even experiencing moments of almost pure stillness in mind and body. My breath came deep from my belly, diaphragmatic breathing, a proven way to reduce stress and anxiety.
Something had clicked. And it was all because of my commitment and the end of my dabbling.
Later that day I described my difficult experience to Matt. He has since become my teacher, offering valuable feedback as I engage in deliberate practice of this new commitment. Each day since has gotten better as I’ve corrected course with Matt’s advice.
Today, I can sit for almost twenty minutes in a calm, meditative state. It still takes a few minutes for me to reduce the chaos in my cranium, to focus, and to get into a good breathing rhythm. And my monkey mind still chatters while I sit there. But each day there is improvement. My breathing is better. The anxiety that often bubbled up on busy days has quelled. I’m even becoming more patient when going about daily activities, something I’ve always struggled with.
That is how you get better at anything – you stop dabbling and you start taking it serious. You pledge yourself to a craftsman-like approach of new skill development.
You must commit.
It’s a mental shift. As soon as I made that decision, as soon I resolved to take meditation as serious as I take my reading, writing, exercise, and healthy eating, my progress accelerated because I accepted that I was willing to put in the time and sacrifice to improve.
This first step will work for you, too.
It is possible to get better at anything. It might take a few false starts before things start to click, but if you persevere, you’ll see improvement.
But wait, there’s more.
Tomorrow, you’ll receive a classic essay from Mark Ford that continues on this subject. He’ll show you how to implement deliberate practice into your skill development system. It can make you healthy, wealthy, and wise.
And when you do read it, remember the wise words of Epictetus. Progress does not come without a price. But valuable progress is worth the price to be paid.
[Ed. Note. Craig Ballantyne is the editor of Early to Rise and author of Financial Independence Monthly and Turbulence Training. He is also the co-creator of the Early to Rise $100,000 Transformation Contest. Though this round of the Transformation Contest has closed it’s not too late to get access to all the helpful tools and advice that has helped many people make a positive change in their lives. Get started on your major life transformations today.
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